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Yep—just before they implant. Who knew, right? I didn’t. Since pursuing fertility treatments, I have learned a lot. And it’s amazing how much we get wrong. (Such as vaginas are hostile environments to sperm.) The teachers in my high school health class, the media, and even Hollywood celebrities make conception look easy and inevitable at any age. But it isn’t.

It gets exponentially more difficult the longer you wait. And, ladies, despite what they promised, we can’t have it all. At least not without some planning. You may have to look at your fertility now, even if you’re not ready to have children.

Chew on this:

  • 25% and 15%—the chances an average healthy couple, who is in their 20s and 30s respectively, will conceive.
  • 28 days—the average number of days a woman’s menstrual cycle lasts, starting from the first day of a woman’s period. Most women, though, have longer or slightly shorter cycles.
  • 14—the cycle day (CD) on which the average woman ovulates. Have a longer cycle? You may ovulate later.
  • 24-36 hours—the amount of time a woman is fertile each ovulatory cycle. And, yes, you can have anovulatory cycles.
  • 3-5 days—the approximated maximum amount of time sperm can survive in a woman’s body.

Are you reeling? I was. While many women are able to conceive without knowing or understanding their fertility (dumb…er…lucky bitches), it is still important for women to know about their bodies. It’s important to know what is normal for you.

Let me leave you with these final numbers. 10-15% and 50%.

These are the respective percentages of success for the two most common assisted reproduction treatments—IUIs and IVFs. They are significantly less than a guarantee. Yet, they still offer hope. And it is this to which us infertiles cling.